Bundle of ‘boy’!

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Hola dear readers! I am back on this blog after a span of may be 3 months. My last post was related to demonitisation, after which I went into a different and new phase. Yes, my pregnancy came to an end just before the year ended, on December 30th 2016. We have been blessed with a baby boy :). All those dreams of baby girls wrapped in pink, turned out to be untrue and God decided to give me this little angel.

The first few days were so challenging for me as a new mother that I used to feel like giving up at times or have often questioned myself if I was doing the right thing or not. But you know what i realised? Every mother is uniquely designed and every baby is customized especially for them. So, I no longer feel low or any less than any of the new moms and I am proud to say that I have overcome PPD.

Having a baby is the best feeling in the world and also the hardest. You embrace motherhood by saying goodbye to your life so far. But, this is just a temporary change until your little one grows up a little and becomes independent. Well, let’s just say that this is a privileged chance that God has blessed you with and you have to dedicate your all to it. So here’s a shout out to all the new mums to stay positive and keep going. The journey may seem infinite and endless (which it is) but it is the most satisfactory and beautiful road that you will take on.

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It’s time

It’s time to do up your trees, time to enjoy festivities. It’s time to bring down all your woollies, time to indulge in chocolates and crispies. It’s time to relive the entire year, it’s time to embrace the new year without fear. It’s now time for a new member to join me, it is time to make a beautiful and happy family 🙂

As the year comes to an end, it brings back all the moments i have lived since the very first day of the year. How time flies, how relationships change, how one has to take each day as it comes, it is truly a miracle! All said and done, i can only feel grateful for having experienced some very new things in my life. Experiences that have not only changed me as a person but also changed my perception. In a few days, i am all set to be a mother to a beautiful little baby that all of us have been eagerly waiting for. What will 2017 hold for me? It will make me a little more selfless and a it is going to give me a lot of strength and courage to embrace my new role.

So, here’s wishing each one of you a blissful year end filled with love and joy! After all it is only the End to start a new beginning.

“Let’s love each other, even when we are mad at each other”

A sweet thing my husband told me last night during our conversation. I was expressing my worst fears and worries now that we are going to enter parenthood. Anyway I am known to worry a little more than necessary but isn’t it always better to be open about it? So here we were discussing life post the baby and how things are going to change drastically. I was telling him his duties and he was reassuring me each time saying that we will be just fine. Amidst all this I even mentioned that in case we don’t meet half way, it is going to cause fights and frustrate us to no extent. It is but obvious that with a third little human in the picture, responsibilities are bound to increase and it is only better and wiser to share them equally. To this, he said that “let’s love each other, even when we are mad at each other”. This not only rhymed but it made complete sense.

Every time a couple fights, they lose complete sense of what they are saying or doing at the moment. This doesn’t always work in their favor as each person takes on the role of a demon. This is when the mind does the talking and not the heart. To think of it, wouldn’t it help to actually remind yourselves of the love you have for each other, rather ruin everything you have? As hard as it is and as easy as this sounds, it is a step that both must take to maintain the sanctity of the relationship.

In conclusion, fight but do it right so as to not affect or be affected by emotions too much. It does take a toll on your personality and kind of mars the whole idea of being together with someone. So, love is your only resort go for it!

The Purple Gandhi.

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The Indian PM, Sri Narendra Modi created a panic wave overnight by completely demonetizing the 500 and 1000 rupee notes. While Trump won the polls overseas, causing the masses to react in an unruly manner, the so called rich and elite couldn’t fathom what had happened overnight, giving them sleepless nights. All the black money that was tucked away , was now being burned on the streets or exchanged in banks for newer notes. What’s worse is that despite this move of his, the worst affected have been the daily wages or the labor class of people.

In place of the 500 and 1000 rupee notes, we now have this snazzy wafer thin purple colored 2000 rupee note. To top it all, it has one of our celebrated leaders Mahatma Gandhi’s picture on it 😀 . I have no clue how this will help all of us but I am sure there is some logic to it. Imagine the plight of our vegetable vendors? They don’t have card swiping machines at their disposal, neither loose cash in hand to return to their customers. Worse yet, imagine the ‘ladies of the night’ who earn a meagre amount close to 100-200 rupees in some of the poorer red light areas. Their only source of income gets taken away and they probably have to settle for something lesser. Not only do they risk their health, but they also go through such emotional turmoil facing their clients.

Purple isn’t the color I am looking up to as of now especially ’cause it is creating a lot of ‘red’ and suffering. Here’s hoping that Mr. Modi achieves what he has planned to, otherwise he is bound to lose all the respect that he has managed to gain, OVERNIGHT! Well a lot of things can happen overnight and this is the best example isn’t it? 😛

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How about NO?

NO- such a powerful word on its own. It almost speaks of itself as an entire sentence and yet it is the most disrespected of all terms. If you are not comfortable with an idea, you say NO! If you do not want to go ahead with a plan, you say NO! If you want to refuse an offer, you definitely use the word NO! Then, why is it that people still push and pursue you? Why isn’t NO taken for an answer? Why is it taken otherwise? This is because we now live in a world where freedom is being widely misused and supressing the opposite sex has become a hobby.

When a man or a woman say NO to any sort of a relationship, be it physical or emotional, it needs to be considered as serious. One cannot force themselves on someone, after that someone has said NO. It can be termed as rape or non consented sex. Even at your work place, you do have the right to refuse an offer that doesn’t suit you or one that you aren’t comfortable taking up. NO means NO and it certainly doesn’t mean that ‘i’ll think about it’, ‘give me some time’ or that ‘i’m available’.

I wanted to write about this powerful word as someone close to me is going through something terrible and I wanted to bring to light, what a single NO can do to your life and the things it can undo. So, please be clear in your communications and actions so as to not fall prey to any of the gimmicks that may cost you, your reputation.

Scars of life

Been a while since I jotted down my thoughts but here I am again, to share with my readers another excerpt. I have been extremely busy, getting pampered by my relatives and close friends as I am now entering my third trimester and the clock is going to start ticking soon. As mentioned in my earlier article, my body has definitely gone through a whole lot of changes but not half of what I expected. However, one such change that I saw recently and couldn’t come to accept is my stretch marks.

These marks are reddish in color and have distributed themselves on either sides of my belly. I couldn’t see it earlier as I can’t bend forward no more. So on one particular day as I stood bare in front of the mirror, I noticed them. Quite fascinated by the root like design it has made on my belly, I stared at it for a while. While doing so, I got a kick from the little one inside! It served as a reminder that those marks were nothing but scars of LIFE, that I was given the right to form inside me. Was it a beautiful reminder? Yes! This journey has proved to be far more interesting than I had imagined it to be and truth be told, I want to be pregnant forever now! haha.. Sitting and waiting for those kicks or somersaults, give me such a high.

So if anything, I just want my readers to know that embracing motherhood and the changes that it brings about, is the best decision you can make. Not only does it bring you internal happiness but it kind of prepares you for what is to come. So, embrace the joys and enjoy the journey!

Lost values.

This article is mainly relevant to the children in India and I have no intention of hurting my followers from across the globe as I am not aware of how it works there.

When I decided to pursue my Bachelors in Education, I took it up with the intent of mainly interacting with the present generation of kids and learning from them while also teaching them what I already know. It came as shocker to me when I saw the change in my upbringing and theirs. Yes, one must accept change with the changing times but one must also remember their routes! I don’t blame the children as much as I blame their parents. Kids have the tendency to emulate what their parents do and it means that a good example is what they need to follow. A few things that I have been paying attention to has been annoying me to the extent that I am imprinting it in my mind so as to not repeat it with my little one.

  1. The concept of play: Mud, parks, outdoor games etc. are all a thing of the past. Yes, sadly it is true! These days I find even 2 year olds knowing how to access gadgets. How do they know it? It is because their parents find it convenient to give them a phone or an ipad to keep them occupied instead of sitting down with them and teaching them things.
  2. Stories: Children grow up watching series meant for adults and hence end up behaving like adults themselves. They learn to back answer, to argue senselessly, to validate what they know by pointing out flaws in their parents and so on. Parents have completely forgotten the art of reading and how it can stimulate their imagination. Books with beautiful illustrations are still available in the market, so kindly invest and show them pictures when you read to them.
  3. Basic etiquette: The most annoying thing that I have observed is the tendency to be anti-social. They come home visiting but never bother to look up from their mothers phone screens. As kids, we were taught to always answer and maintain eye contact with adults when they ask you questions or want to indulge in some conversation. Secondly, over enthusiasm in elders conversations is also not welcome. Parents must teach them to leave the room when required as too much exposure has never really done anyone good.

There are more complaints I have towards the latest trend of parenting but somehow I feel like pausing right here. It is kinda mind boggling and may be I am being too judgemental but even if I am, it is well within reason. Please make time for your little ones, build a strong foundation and help them grow into successful good human beings. Money can’t buy these moments neither can it buy personality. You have to guide them and teach them right from wrong, only then there is a chance at a better future.

What’s one anyway??

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Well, well, well it is finally time to announce the arrival of our little bun. I know it may seem a little too early but this post is limited to my blog! I haven’t gone rampant on social media yet, as I am a little wary of prying eyes.

Being a huge GOT fan myself, I couldn’t be too original and decided to use “winter is coming” for our little advertisement. Can’t say it’s a bad idea 😛 I had to steal off the baby feet picture from the internet just to match our footprints from our honeymoon in Goa, back in December 2012. Such fond memories of having known him for the past 5 years and today we are all set to make more memories, probably sweeter ones with our little bundle of joy. Time flies, you’re challenged every single day and you least expect what comes your way! But news like this, can only come in packages of happiness, love and excitement.

So, here’s hoping to celebrate the New Year with an irreplaceable gift 🙂 Need all your love and wishes, for everything to go off smoothly. xoxo

Our little language <3

The moment we find someone we can connect with, on levels best known to us, we tend to form a new language with them. We either start exchanging new terms or adapt to each others way of talking and communicating. I find this to be extremely helpful as also cute. Language may not necessarily be about the words you choose to utter, but it can just be that look in one’s eyes to be able to tell you what needs to be told.

The reason I am writing about this unspoken of language is because I found mine with him. Yes, small gestures or exchange of ideas are so easy when it is with him. Neither too much explanation is needed, nor you have the fear of being wronged. I am almost 2200 kms away from my spouse and yet I am able to understand his emotions, his routine, his moods etc. with less communication. Same applies to him, of course this has come with much training haha. To express this concept of our secret language better, I am going to quote these beautiful lines from a song I enjoy listening to:

‘Sitting by the edge of the world,

I know it’s true

That we wrote a language,

Just for me and you’

I reckon all of you to find your connect with your own little language because FB, Whatsapp, twitter or snapchat can only do so much. Rest of it is what makes your relationship personal and more in tune. So, go figure! 🙂

Somersaults!

Been a while since I last wrote but this was due to a little getaway with my mum to my home in the northern part of India, where my husband is presently. I went home to be with him for two months but returned in a few days as the weather did not suit me one bit. It is definitely tough being an army wife, with the distance and moments you miss out on but such is life. I miss my man, and I know he misses me too.

Focusing on the more important aspect of our lives, the little baby inside; I am glad that my husband experienced a kick or two from the little one. He was definitely ecstatic and would keep feeling my tummy on and off. The latest being, our little one is beginning to do somersaults inside! Up until now I only felt the kicks but now I can feel this kind of a churn inside which makes me believe that the baby is up to a lot of mischief. This is an even greater feeling than the kick that I have been experiencing. It tells me that I have a naughty little muffin growing inside whom I can’t wait to smother with love. Just thought I’d share a little excerpt from motherhood diaries before I get caught up with the usual.

Signing off for now, until we meet again 🙂